Building a habit – meditation

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I added meditation on this year’s bucket list. After experiencing journaling and its helping and healing effects and wanted to try meditation as a way of escaping stress and anxiety.

I tried meditation in the past but it was a failed attempt. Maybe I wasn’t ready, maybe I didn’t know how to do it. Even if today it became a habit, I still don’t know if I do it right or not. But for now I decided that it’s not important.

I was already a fan of master Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche, but this year in January, in a nice winter day, I was so exhausted after work and I felt so lost. Like someone who can’t find its purpose. It started to rain like in fairytales and thus I felt like listening something calm trying to ease my mind. I was watching how the snow touches the earth while listening the teachings of master Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche. I must say, he is very funny and a good teacher. Slowly my heart became calmer and calmer. That day I started meditating. At first, I felt I couldn’t concentrate at all. I felt that all my thoughts waited for that exact moment to come and make my mind a mess… but I tried not to give up this time. I did so the next day. And then I would forget about it a day or two and then continue.

In February I decided to meditate daily even if I was too busy or too tired. And that is how meditation became a habit. Day by day I learnt more about me and it became easier to concentrate, to accept the ambush of my thoughts and the fact that I was still inconsistent concerning the time of meditating every day. One day I would meditate more than the other. Today 5 minutes and tomorrow 10 minutes. It doesn’t matter. Not stressing about it was the bet thing I could do. It was my method of reaching out to me, my method of distressing. Why stress about something meant to distress? No way. By doing this, meditation became my everyday joy. Not only something I do as a habit in order to distress, but something I look forward to doing everyday.

Thanks to meditation I also learnt how to breath and how to focus on breathing. I use breathing technique whenever anxiety kicks and it helps. Why didn’t I find this quicklier? Meditation is also a great way to slow down and to be mindful of your acts and of your thoughts and completing it with journaling is a great combination.

This month’s goal is to increase the time of meditation from 10 minutes to at least 15. What I also do, even if I don’t know is the right thing to do, is to alternate yoga with mediation. I took a break from yoga this winter but staying seated for so long on the chair at work brought me so much back pain. I started yoga again to relax and to recover from back pain, and it works wonders.

I am really satisfied I succeeded starting again meditation and yoga. I can’t wait for the weather to get warmer and to start doing yoga outside in the garden or in our front yard.

What about you? Do you guys meditate? If you do, please share with me any thoughts or advice you might have on this. Thanks for reading and stay safe.

Until next time,
Maria

Mukbang and chill

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No matter how strange it might sound, there are some people who relax while watching mukbang on YouTube. Others try to control their need for snacking or their appetite trough this well-known mukbang. I am one of the people who enjoy watching mukbang videos because it is relaxing and it helps me release all the stress accumulated from work or other problems.

If you are not familiar with mukbang, let me tell you very quickly what it means. Mukbang (read as meokbang) is a Korean word and it basically means eating broadcast. Mukbang is a video where people usually eat large amounts of food (but not in all cases). In some cases, this broadcast is live-streamed and the person in the video eats and answers to the comments and questions of the audience. Sometimes, the vloggers also cook the food they are going to eat, which is also very interesting to me because I get to learn about Korean cooking as well.

Mukbang first appeared in South Korea and it became famous in 2010. Since then, a lot of vloggers tried this concept and it is still very common and very famous. The concept expanded to other countries as well so you will find a lot of videos with this kind of content. One of my favorite mukbang channels is [햄지]Hamzy‘s channel. I like her content because she is very natural and she doesn’t exaggerate with comments or gestures. I also like SIO‘s channel because he is funny and I like the way he edits his videos.

However, mukbang could also annoy some people, especially those who hate to hear noises when eating (my sister simply hates mukbang, so I always use earphones when she is around), because mukbang can be seen as eating ASMR. Strangely enough, while I don’t really like noises when eating, I am not annoyed by this kind of content. I actually find it interesting and relaxing. Maybe I became extremely comfortable with Korean culture. Noodles are not like pasta. Noodles are made to be slurped, and believe me, slurping your noodles gives them a different and special taste. So do not expect to see people eating elegantly like they would if they went to eat pasta in some fancy restaurant. I like mukbang videos because people become so sincere and comfortable in front of their food and that is something I really like seeing. Maybe that is the reason so many people find mukbang videos relaxing.

So what do you think about this kind of content? Do you like watching eating videos or you are rather annoyed by them? Let me know your thoughts in the comments. Also, if you like watching mukbang videos, do you have any favorites?

I hope you all have a nice spring. I should continue watching my mukbang videos in this chilly spring day.
Thank you for reading and stay healthy. I’ll see you around.

When spring comes

I feel it’s been ages since I’ve written my last article and talked to you guys. I was very busy these weeks because the weather was surprisingly warmer so I decided to help my parents and do some cleaning in the yard and the garden. Actually I really wanted to do this for a long time now as I felt extremely inactive during the winter. Moreover, March is the perfect time to clean the garden and prepare the plots for planting vegetables.

March started with unexpectedly nice and warm weather. I say unexpectedly because February was extremely cold. However, we expect some cold days next week which is also the reason we wanted to finish cleaning our garden. Living in the countryside is all about timing. At least this is what I have learned until now from past experiences. Being organized and doing things on time is extremely important, especially if you live in a region where the weather is very unpredictable, like in my case.

However, spring doesn’t equate to only work. That would be awful. Spring means also happiness, joy, the revival of nature, flowers, singing birds. I love everything about spring. I enjoy the evolution of nature and how everything revives from zero. I try to enjoy spring and to relax as well in order to appreciate even more the results and efforts of my work. What I like to do the most when the weather is nice is drinking coffee or tea on the balcony from where I have a wide view over the yard, the garden and the street. Also, I enjoy a lot sunbathing and the balcony is the perfect place for it.

What I also enjoy doing when spring comes is cleaning. Cleaning and decluttering are extremely necessary for my peace of mind. So I try to empty the things we don’t need anymore, to organize the shelves, to reconsider what we need and what we don’t need in order to avoid overspending etc. When it comes to decorations inside and outside, I am trying to keep a balance. I don’t like over decorating, but I like the effect of flowers as decoration for example. They become nature wherever you put them, so decoration might no be the right word, but you got the idea.

As this is the first spring I spend in the countryside after 6 years of living in the city, I am continuously overjoyed and I am trying to stay as much as possible in the nature and observe the transformations, the changes that occur everyday. Thus, I took many pictures these weeks and I will share some of them with you hoping they will bring you joy as they did to me. The photos are not professional, I took them with my phone so they might not be perfect. However, the essence is still there.

I love this one especially because this is a small tree that my father planted last year. I usually love trees and being around them. I have waited so much for spring to come and now I will be waiting for this little one and his brothers to bloom. I shall show you their beauty when they bloom as well.

I don’t know about you but I was mesmerized at the sight of ”little flowers” sunbathing calmly and harmoniously on the branches and the trunk. Also, when I was choosing the photos for this post, I loved the way the sky is shyly showing in the back and still giving great balance and color effects to this photo. Watching this photo, I remembered just how beautiful the sky was that day. I love taking photos of the sky, my phone is full of sky photos. Here, my intention wasn’t photographing the sky but the sky came out pretty nicely even so. I will show you next the last two photos of the first flowers that bloomed even since February. You might have guessed, I am talking about snowdrops. They are not only beautiful, they also smell great. Shall we great them?

Only by looking at them, my day becomes better and I find myself simply smiling. These photos are taken before I managed to clean all the little branches and old leaves from the garden, but I still find them very pretty. They glow on no matter stage, like some people. They are two different species of snowdrops, each showing unique beauty.

Today’s post ends here. I hope this post will make you smile today, or at least bring you some peace of mind. This month will be extremely busy and I already have a lot of projects in mind. There are many transformations I want to make and to share with you, a lot of vegetables to try planting and most importantly, a lot of stories to tell. Finally, my source of inspiration, spring, is here and thus a new journey begins. Stay tuned.

My 5 tips to find inspiration and start writing

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I am this kind of person. I need to feel inspired in order to be able to create something good. This is especially valid when writing for the blog. However, even before my decision to start this blog, what I wanted to build the most trough this blog was consistency. I really want to do this for a long time, but only for as long as I feel joy.

The truth is that I mostly write when I am inspired to write. But in order to be consistent, I know I have to find a solution to keep myself inspired more often. Fortunately, I have discovered that this is possible in my case. Yes, I can find inspiration from simple things and I can make myself stay in front of the screen and write passionately even if I didn’t woke up feeling inspired. Inspiration doesn’t fall from the sky. You have to continually search for it. At least, this is how it is in my case. Thus, you could call it progress. Every time I search for inspiration, I learn something new.

I believe that the things that inspire us the most are the things we like and the things we naturally have an interest in. For example, I love music and I find comfort in music. Thus, listening to music is often a powerful weapon that helps me find my inspiration. Once you know what you really like, you will have found the perfect way to keep yourself inspired and grow. It doesn’t have to be something big. You might find inspiration in the simplest things, but that is the beauty of it.

I always try to stay organized when I try to build a new habit, in this case, the habit of writing regularly. But it could be anything, even meditating daily or exercising regularly. You need to build a plan, a routine. When it comes to writing, I follow a few steps that help me be consistent. If you like lists, here you have it, a list of 5 important steps that work for me when it comes to writing and staying inspired.

1. Keep a list with ideas. I have to admit that I don’t have the time to write every time when inspiration hits. Fortunately, I keep my phone with me most of the time. Thus, when inspiration hits, I always write down that idea in a list on my phone. The advantage of keeping such a list is that if you keep doing it every time a new idea pops up in your head, you will have in no time a bunch of ideas that will be your plan B for when you have absolutely zero inspiration. At the moment, I have 17 new ideas in my list, so I won’t have to worry for a long period if I don’t feel inspired.

2. Declutter your working space. In my case, every single object on my desk is another thing to worry about. Thus, before starting to work, I like to clean my desk in order to feel I am creating a new atmosphere for me to concentrate in. However, there are people out there who feel totally relaxed when they work in complete mess. If this helps instead, just let your messy desk be your cozy nest and start doing what you have to do.

3. Listen to your favorite music. As mentioned above, music is what helps me in most of the difficult periods. Sometimes, I could concentrate on writing even while listening to music with lyrics. Other times, I only write with ASMR or instrumental music in the background. As I was writing this article, I could concentrate perfectly while listening to my favorite Korean songs with beautiful lyrics. I felt I was writing at my favorite café where I could also choose what music to listen to.

4. Watch a YouTube video you like. I love watching YouTube videos, and, as I wrote in my previous post, I use YouTube as a source of learning and inspiration. Whenever I have a bad mood, or when I feel like rewatching the videos I like or watching new ones from my favorite youtubers, I go to YouTube. This winter I regained my good mood with videos filmed during spring or summer for example. I missed so much the green grass and trees that I started feeling better even after watching videos on YouTube. Even if I don’t necessarily have a bad mood, if I feel I want to recharge my inspiration storage, I go to YouTube and take energy and inspiration from beautiful people around the world. People can become other’s people strength and inspiration.

5. Just start writing. You don’t know what a beautiful and creative article you might write until you start writing the first word, the first line, the first paragraph. I only had the idea for this article and a few words written on a piece of paper when I started writing. I didn’t really know what shape I should give to this article but after the first line and with the help of these steps, my article came to have this form and structure, and I feel quite satisfied with the result. Starting writing means you’re already closer to the end.

This is it for today. I really hope this article can be your source of inspiration for the next time you might feel uninspired. Also, if you have built your own writing routine, please feel free to share it with me in the comments. I am always willing to learn from others.

Stay inspired and I will see you around.

Korean YouTube vloggers who inspire(d) me

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It has been quite a long time since I started to use YouTube as one of the main sources for study and self-improvement. I can easily find quality content and I choose what I want to see further. I have used YouTube as a secondary study source even for exams (I got a 10 in my Philosophy exam thanks to the videos I watched to understand difficult philosophical principles that I didn’t understand well in class). Last year I started to search for Korean channels that could help me improve my Korean, and this is how I actually found out about minimalism. I could easily find very nice channels made by Korean housewives or single women, who shared their advice and experience on minimalism. The videos helped me learn a lot of things related to how to live a better life, and at the same time my Korean improved because I chose to watch original content which is very enjoyable, and it relates to the subjects I am interested in.

Since the beginning of 2020 I have kept on watching this kind of content, and lately I have also discovered Korean videos about gardening which I have a great interest in. At the same time, I have learnt Korean vocabulary related to gardening, housekeeping and so on. I am extremely grateful for the content created by these great people, and this is why I have decided to dedicate today’s post to the people who inspired me to become better in many areas. These are my personal perspectives and the scope of this post is only to express gratitude and to recommend nice content related to simple life and minimalism to people who are interested in these subjects.

꽃피는 산골 (read as Kkot pineun sangol, meaning The mountain valley where flowers bloom) is a channel about flowers, gardening, sustainable life and people living in harmony with nature). I have found this channel quite recently but I came to love it, not only because I learned a lot of things about gardening and cooking, but also because I feel so much at peace whenever I watch its content. The videos show the life of a Korean couple who live in a remote mountain area, working together in the garden and enjoying the fruits of nature and of their hard work. This is a channel about life that can be easily enjoyed when you slow down, when you understand the meaning of life and when you work with nature, not against it.

오느른onulun (meaning today but written phonetically in Korean) is a channel run by a Korean TV producer who bought a house in the countryside, and who learns to enjoy a simple and slow life while renovating her newly bought house. This is a channel I have only discovered this year but I came to love its content so much. I love how this 32 years old woman is brave enough to buy a house on her own and how she shows her experiences with living in the countryside, how she learns from scratch skills like gardening, how she shows her clumsiness as a natural human characteristic and how she gets to know the people in that region while asking for help, while trying to learn how to live simply and beautifully. A truly inspiring and healing journey.

냥숲nyangsoop (which could be translated as Cat forest) is one of my favorite channels. It shows the daily life of a Korean woman who lives in the countryside with her cat. I like how she makes everything look so simple and enjoyable. She cooks a lot, and I find myself inspired when it comes to cooking every time I watch her videos. I also like the way she made her small house extremely practical and cozy. Our house can become that Little Forest where we feel the most comfortable, a place that we can call home sweet home.

해그린달 haegreendal. This is one of the first Korean channels I started watching, and I fell in love with the content and with the storytelling of the videos. The videos are made by a Korean housewife and mom, and she often shows her daily life as a mom, recipes she enjoys cooking and so on. What I like the most about her videos is the way she arranges her videos, the way she films, how she tells the story of the video. I found myself interested in video editing thanks to her beautifully arranged content. I hope I can watch her work for a long time.

슛뚜sueddu. I really like this channel because the videos are neatly edited (I learned a lot from this YouTuber as well in this area), and the content is simple and very enjoyable. I also learned a lot about minimalism from these videos, and I love to see the evolution of this channel’s owner as a freelancer. Also I find inspiration and motivation whenever I watch the videos on this channel, so this one is a keeper.

Kimi Life and 키미 Kimi are two channels created by the same person, but they have similar content. The videos are mostly about cultivating vegetables and cooking with what we produce by ourselves. I learned a lot about Korean cooking from these vlogs, thus is always a pleasure to watch and learn. I love the opening of the videos on this channel, and I find the editing quite professional. The videos usually start with the view of the mountain village filmed with a drone. Absolutely beautiful and healing.

보통엄마jin (read as Bottong eomma Jin, meaning Ordinary mom, Jin) is a channel run by a mother of two boys and a woman who is very active and tries to live her life while being a mom and a wife. I find her videos very inspiring. I love how she makes efforts to be a good mom while taking care of herself. I remember watching her video where she decided to exercise in order to become healthier and she inspired me to do the same. I was ashamed that I made less efforts, even if I had not a husband or kids who could have made things a little more difficult. Inspired by her I also started to exercise, and I lost 6 kg that year. I also learned a lot about cleaning in a sustainable way and I gave up along the way on many chemical and beauty products that are harmful for us and for the environment.

Who would have thought that one day I would find my biggest passion, Korean, and that that passion would bring the best in me? One journey leads to another. Every decision that we make leads us to live our life in a way or another. Every decision leads to another. Every little thing that we do connects to something that we will do in the future. In my case, through my passion for Korean I got to know about minimalism and to be inspired to practice it, and later on, through minimalism I got to practice journaling, and through journaling I got to practice meditation. These small dots connected and created a better me who is interested in personal growth and who will learn something new everyday.

Today I am grateful I got to write this post. I hope you find your inspiration like I found mine.

Stay inspired, and I’ll see you around.

Little forest – a journey to self

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This is the first time I write a movie review on the blog or better said my personal view and feelings about this wonderful movie called Little forest. After watching the movie, I found myself wanting to make the feeling of happiness to last longer. Thus I decided to write about what I felt and to share with you the reasons why you should give this movie a chance.

I cannot say I have a particular style when it comes to movies. I like well played roles, actors who can transmit feelings and stories that can inspire me. Little forest is this kind of movie. Maybe I am biased. It is true that I mostly watch Korean productions. However, I think you would like Little forest even if you are not into Korean cinematography.

Little forest (리틀 포레스트 in Korean) is a South Korean movie released in 2018 and directed by Yim Soonrye. Actually there is also a Japanese version of the movie which is in fact the original one and it was released in 2014. I plan to see the Japanese version as well and I hope it is as good as the Korean version.

The movie tells the story of a young woman who leaves Seoul and returns to her hometown, situated in the countryside. At first she says she only came down to her village for a few days and when asked by her friend why she came back, she says that she came because she was hungry. This line was so moving and I felt it so well because like the protagonist I myself moved back to my hometown in the countryside in order to find myself and to find what I really want to do with my life. While this line is a metaphor for one who doesn’t feel satisfied with his/her life, the young woman also missed the simple life she had in her hometown, the simplicity and the tranquility that one can find in a place such as a village or a small town.

Her house brings her back in the past when she lived with her mother who used to cook delicious meals. Her mother left when she was a student in order to find her own little forest, a metaphor for self-discovery and finding ones true self and happiness within oneself. Only later, after many years, the girl who became a woman would understand her mother’s thoughts and feelings.

Days pass one after another, but the young woman doesn’t go back to Seoul. She came down in winter, then spring comes again and she learns to produce her own food. She spends time with her childhood friends while cooking good food, working in the fields and enjoying the gifts of nature. Then summer and autumn come. The young woman lives the entire process of healing and learns the true way of becoming fulfilled and happy. Then winter comes again and she goes back to Seoul only to return in the spring for good.

I found myself smiling the whole time while watching this movie. I felt its warmth, the completeness that comes from small things, the happiness that comes with simplicity and tranquility. I enjoyed the beautiful sceneries and I remembered why I love the color green so much. Living in the countryside feels like you can slow down time. There’s nothing more beautiful than living closer to the nature and enjoying what it has to offer to us. Also, trying your best to preserve it is as beautiful and as meaningful as enjoying it.

Little forest is a movie about finding one’s little forest, one’s true self and what happiness really means to each and everyone. It is about small acts of kindness, friendship, simple but delicious food and slowing down. It shows the beauty of every single season and the importance of each. A truly wonderful and healing movie.

I am curious if any of you watched this movie and if you did please share with me in the comments your thoughts on it.

Until next time,
Maria

The importance of one free day per week

This is an era where we mostly talk about productivity, getting the best results and working hard. And we love reading and talking about these subjects. Because this is what everyone else does. We have to become productive, we have to be promoted, we have to work the hell out of us to be observed, to be appreciated. Well, this is how things work. And don’t get me wrong. There’s no problem with working hard, with trying to be as productive as possible, with getting the best results out of your work. This is in fact the way we can measure progress. It’s all fine. However, working the hell out of you while forgetting how to take care of yourself… are you sure about that? Well, I’m not.

I am the type of person who doesn’t like to do something because she has to. Thus I actually get quite unproductive when I do something because I HAVE to. That could be because when I have to do something, I have to force myself to find external motivation to make it work. When I do something because I want it, because I like it, the motivation is internal and it doesn’t feel like work. So yeah, you could say I don’t like work :)) and boy, I get stuck at work so often.

I often feel like we work almost all our life and we have less time to enjoy it. Work is what we sometimes talk about after work when we meet with friends over drinks to forget about work actually. How ironic, right? Work is what we do almost all our life. I myself learned so hard until now just to get a good job. While I am proud I did it, it didn’t make me as happy as I thought I would be. What makes me happy is actually the time I disconnect and forget about work. It’s not that I hate my job or working in particular, I just love more the time I can do the things that I like. Well, I guess this is valid for almost everybody.

In my case, as it wasn’t already enough to deal with a full-time job during the week, I worked also part-time, if I can call it like that, as a tutor during the weekend. I also had a small part-time for 2 years during the week as a teacher, which I think exhausted me. Being a teacher is great and I also found friends while teaching. I did it because I loved it and I wanted to have more experience, but I neglected myself in the process because I didn’t really have the time for it. I guess I overworked myself. The result was a me tired all the time, always busy and stressed. The worst thing was that I was getting tired by the things I enjoyed. This is something I try to be careful of. Therefore I decided to stop getting involved in so many projects and start making time to take care of myself. This is how I thought of establishing the one free day a week.

You might think that one free day per week is not much, but trust me, it works wonders. I usually take that day on Sunday. Sunday is my day and I do whatever I want with that time. I like to do activities for my mental and physical health like meditation, journaling or walking. I also like to relax while listening to music or watching my favorite Korean series. I put a lot of effort in preparing breakfast and coffee for me an my family as my effort to give a good vibe to others and to myself. But what I love the most is the care I give to my skin and to my mind. Sunday is the day I become the VVIP in my life. I am extremely lucky to have a talented sister who does my hair, who gives the best relaxing massage, who does my manicure and my pedicure. On Sundays I become prettier and calmer. This free day is the treat I give to myself after a hard week, and it also helps me start my week with less stress and less worries.

It’s important to work and to improve ourselves, but I think it’s even more important to know when to stop so we can take care of ourselves. Being an active part of this rat race is not something we can be proud of. However, getting to learn how to escape from the rat race is way cooler and you can show off with your skills of nurturing yourself.

What about you? Do you have a day only for yourself? Or maybe you have other methods to relax that you can share with me? I’m curious to learn other ways of slowing down and taking care of ourselves. Let’s talk in the comments.

As always stay healthy and positive and I’ll see you around.

Coping with bad weather/bad moods

The weather was so messed up in the last 3 weeks. It rained like crazy, day and night, for about 3 weeks until the soil couldn’t absorb the water anymore and even if the rain stopped in the last 3 days, there is still a lot of water in our yard.

Ironically enough, before the “rainy season” started, I watched the anime Weathering with you. This anime shows us a Japan where it rains everyday and is threatened to be englobed by water. When I was watching this anime I was thinking how difficult it would be to live in a world where it rains daily and the sun can’t be seen anymore. Thanks God my imagination doesn’t transform into reality.

However soon it was the time rain play its role. After only one week I was tired of it but I still took it as it was. Unlike the girl from Weathering with you, I couldn’t pray and stop the rain. So I just waited, the only thing we humans can do. Then it rained more and more. Some nights I would wake up hearing the rain and would feel disappointed that it wouldn’t stop. I hoped that when I woke up in the morning, the rain would stop. But it didn’t. It rained and rained for a few more days. I was tired and depressed. I love rain, but that wasn’t rain. It was something else. I have no name for it. Unfortunately, in this region we have many periods like this. Thus, whenever it rains for a long time I get a little depressed. However, I can’t stay depressed all day just because it rains. Thus I started to think about what I could do to improve my moods when I am down, no matter the reason. This is what I do:

Analyze the cause of my mood. Whenever I see that I am down, I try to think of the cause that’s influencing my mood. If I know the cause, I can find the proper solution. Let’s say it’s weather the reason I feel down. What I do is try to make inside the most comfortable environment for me to get better. Cleaning, changing the bedsheets, using perfume for my room, lights and listening to asmr of a day I miss are some of the things that help me cope with a bad mood.

Accept my mood. Hey, it’s not like life is only made of good days. Sometimes we also have a bad day, or more. So what? It’s not like life is made only of bad days either. Bad days are there so you can enjoy your good days. Bad days can teach us valuable lessons. All we have to do is to accept them as part of our life.

Meditation and journaling. These two are the most important practices for self-development and healing that I like using these days. While journaling is not something that I do daily, meditation became part of my daily life. Trough meditation I can easily calm my mind full of thoughts, because I mostly concentrate on breathing.

Listening to music. Music has healing effects for me. Whenever I listen to music it’s like I am opening a door to another world. It’s healing and relaxing.

Planning. Yes, the best time to plan is when you have not much to do. During those rainy or cold days I planned the most: how my vegetable garden should look like, what vegetable seeds I should buy, how I should design my relaxation space in the garden outside and I even found the time to learn more about gardening, a hobby I enjoy very much.

Relax. Finding the time to relax is not something I am very good at. However, I am always trying to get better at taking breaks, better at slowing down, better at taking care of myself. What better time to do this than when you feel shitty. Only by applying a face mask or wearing some perfume you can change your mood by a lot. We need to feel pretty outside as well in order to feel pretty and healthy inside. Use your time wisely.


I admit, it’s not easy to get to feel better when you have a bad day. One day might start as a bad day, but finish as a good one. In the end, it is our efforts that make a difference. We can accept that we have a bad day and that tomorrow could be a better one, or we can try to make a bad day ends well. That’s a possibility too. You don’t have to do it well from your first try. You shouldn’t force yourself, instead you should constantly try to get better at healing yourself and loving your bad moods as well. That’s how you can enjoy life with everything it has.


Thanks for being with me today as well.
Stay positive and healthy and I’ll see you around.

Closing another chapter – 2020, a year of first times

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Again the end of the year has come. The last day of the year always makes me go back and think about what I’ve done good and about what I can do better next year. The end of the year is not the end. Today one year ends, tomorrow another year begins. There’s hope and many things I want to do next year. However, before talking about new plans, I want to fill today’s page with words about the current year, a year that was full of first times.

Last night, while preparing to go to sleep, I had this sudden thought that this year I tried many things for the first time. Some were successes, others were failures. No matter how I look at these experiences, I really learned a lot about me and other people as well.

It was my first time deciding that I had to stop waiting to lose weight later. I used to say this all the time: tomorrow, from Monday, next week and so on. It was my first time deciding to go on a lose-weight-journey right now. That decision is still rewarding.

It was my first time trying to change my lifestyle. Minimalism and journaling had extremely beneficial effects on me and I also changed my eating habits. I stopped eating meat and I started doing research about what a balanced and healthy diet means, but I wanted to make changes while enjoying food because I am really happy when I eat good food. Thus instead of I can’t do it, I can’t give up on it I started to say more Let’s try or I want to change that. There are no magical words, only a strong motivation behind achieving one’s goals.

I had a lot of first times while cooking. I tried recipes like Korean cucumber kimchi, Korean seaweed soup, Korean rice cake, Japanese fluffy pancakes, Japanese omurice, humus and so on. I became culturally richer every time I tried something new. I also improved my cooking skills and made people happy with my food.

I read for the first time a book entirely in Korean and I became more confident that I can do more and better. What followed next? I started watching Korean series without English subtitles and somehow I became comfortable doing it. I did well (patting my head).

I made homemade soap for the first time and I had a great time both while preparing and using them. I got closer to the person I want to become and I feel I became more responsible for my actions toward nature.

I started learning Japanese. A new world was waiting to be discovered. I opened a new door to another beautiful culture. My goal was to get to read Japanese and it was possible to read a few children stories after learning Hiragana, one of the three writing systems in Japanese. There is a long road ahead of me but I feel ready to go with the flow and to have fun while learning.

Starting a blog was also a first time, a very beautiful and rewarding one. Through my blog I was able to learn more about myself, to discover new things I want to do next, to meet beautiful people, to learn from them or to just share stories with them. For this I am always grateful and happy to have started this journey.

It was a great year, full of unexpected situations and decisions that I had to make. It was a challenging year and I have to admit I am curious about what comes next.

This is the last story of 2020. Thank you all for being here with me, for reading my articles and for sharing your stories with me. I will be here next year too, waiting for you to come by. I hope you stay healthy and have a year full of first times. Happy New Year!

My evolution in 2020 – an overview

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2020 remains for me the most challenging yet the most fruitful year. I believe that all the difficulties that came into my life challenged me to change in order to grow. I had to react, if not I would have been in extreme depression right now.

Today’s post is not only an overview on my progress for this year, but also a post to express my gratitude for the good things that happened to me and for the goals I have achieved. It is the first time I write more elaborately about my achievements and this is partly due to my journaling journey I started almost a year ago.

This time of the year I usually think about my goals for the next year, but this year it came to me that thinking about what we already achieved can help us check our development map and motivate us to continue the great work. Also it shows us where we are now so we can pick goals that would helps us continue our work and grow even more.

So without further ado, I will list the achievements that give me so much satisfaction and motivate me to keep making efforts:

I finished writing my dissertation. I postponed writing my dissertation because I felt extremely overwhelmed with a full-time job, a part-time job and school. I really felt I needed a break or at least postpone writing my dissertation for one year. I am glad and proud I finished writing it.

I started keeping an everyday journal. This is something I am very proud of. Journaling helped me in so many various ways and I think it is a habit that doesn’t feel like routine. I do it because I like it, I write whenever I feel like it. Journaling is like a friend you drink with, it never betrays you.

I started doing yoga and cardio exercises to lose weight. I lost 6 kg. I am very proud of me making efforts to lose weight. I really loved the process of me becoming healthier and more responsible for my life.

I started my blogging journey. Writing is really healing for me and I wanted to write a blog since I was younger. I wanted to have a cooking blog, but it turned out writing about lifestyle. I am still thinking of starting a cooking blog, but now I have other projects I want to focus on. It will happen one day if I still want it to happen.

I started my minimalism journey. I really consider this one a real achievement. Getting to know more about the minimalist lifestyle also changed me and challenged me to make changes where I felt I had to change. Since I started learning more about minimalism, I feel like I became more responsible toward the environment and toward myself. I started consuming less and more responsibly and thus I could save money more easily. I started keeping a track of my finances and say stop when I felt I spent too much. I gave up on eating meat. I don’t know if it’s because of minimalism, but it came so naturally after I got into minimalism. There were also a lot of other circumstances that made me choose this way of leaving. I am not a vegetarian yet because I still eat fish but I am quite happy with my choice of not eating meat. However I never pushed myself doing something I don’t like so if I ever feel like eating meat again I will do it. Right now I am quite satisfied with my lifestyle, but there is always a place for improvement and this is what I am looking for. Continuous improvement and a happier me.

Now that I see everything on paper, I realize that this year was quite a good year. If I don’t think about the challenge that we all had to face since February, 2020 could be my year. I did more than I wished that night when I saw the fireworks. The fireworks were like flowers on the sky and so my wishes bloomed in my heart. And now I know that I am capable of doing everything I want if I put my mind and my soul into it. I am waiting for another great year.

I hope you had a great year too. Feel free to tell me about it in the comments if you feel like it.
With infinite gratitude for reading my words I hope you stay healthy and positive and as always, I’ll see you around.