The magic of waiting

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I became impatient again. In some cases I wish that results could appear quicklier than usual. Even if I put a lot of work and effort, sometimes time is the most important ingredient in the recipe of my success. Like dough needs a certain period of time to rest and grow, my work and efforts need time to mature. But nowadays, because we live in the era of speed and technology, and because we can obtain things easier than 50 years ago, we tend to forget more easily and more frequently how important it is to wait.

Actually, I almost forgot this too. I became impatient about many things like professional development, personal growth or building the house of my dreams. I know how important it is to wait and build small habits in order to get big results. However, there are days when I wish things to come my way a little faster.

Today I woke up at 5:58 because I wanted to see the sunrise. On the Internet it was said that the sun would rise at 6:03. I really wanted to see the sunrise, but it’s been a while since I have last seen the sunrise; thus I didn’t know exactly how it works. The thing is that the information on the Internet regarding the time the sun rises is relative because it’s not possible to tell the exact hour the sun rises. I was very sleepy and a bit cold, but I was waiting impatiently like I was trying to quickly check another thing on my to do list. Guess what! I had to wait half an hour to see the sunrise. I thought I missed the big moment, but after 30 minutes, with sparkling eyes and a pounding heart I would watch how a big ball of fire rises from behind the forest. I instantly had an aha moment and I realized that because I had to wait more than I thought, I actually enjoyed seeing the sunrise a hundred times more than I would have done it at 6:03, 5 minutes after waking up.

Here you have it! Sunrise of May 9th. The photo is a bit unclear, but I still wanted to share it with you.

I believe that those 30 minutes of waiting were in fact the reason I smiled the whole day today. Not only because I enjoyed seeing the sunrise so much, but also because that half an hour reminded me the importance of patience and perseverance. I actually thought of giving up and going to sleep a few times, but I guess I was more determined to see the sunrise. I am so glad I stayed until the end, and I shall do so with every project in my life.

Let me know your thoughts in the comments. Did you have a similar experience that reminded you how important it is to wait?


It’s been a while since I have last shared my story with you, but I am so happy to be back.
Always thank you for reading.

Hard work is more important than talent

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There is no stronger ally than hard work and continuous practice when you want to achieve your goals. I believe that hard work never betrays us and great achievements are always the result of hard work. Albert Einstein said that Genius is 1% talent and 99% percent hard work, Thomas Edison said that Genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration and Liviu Rebreanu, a Romanian writer puts it this way: One quarter of talent and three quarters of hard work will barely make a masterpiece. They have proved they were right.

I already wrote about my passion about Korean language and Korean dramas. Actually, I was inspired to write this article while watching a Korean drama, Prison playbook. The series tells the story of a successful baseball player who was sentenced to 1 year in prison after he killed the guy who tried to rape his sister. The main character had already had a surgery after a car accident in his youth and he had received chemotherapy for stomach cancer. However he successfully passed all these trials and he practiced a lot and became an even better baseball player. While he is in prison he is stabbed in his shoulder by a cell inmate and he finds out that he won’t be able to play baseball. However, he practices a lot in prison and trains everyday and he discovers that he can use his other hand to throw the balls. He is the portrayal of a passionate man who works hard and fights for his dream. He never gives up, he tries to find another way even when it seems impossible.

Thus while watching the series with eyes wide open, I started to analyze my Korean learning journey. I remembered the beginning, I saw myself again in the study room trying to read the words without using romanization, I saw myself writing words on hundreds of pages, reading texts again and again in order to read faster and faster. I remembered how I cried every time I failed, every time I was disappointed in my results, every time I succeeded. I used to think that my efforts were not enough, that I was not good enough after all these years. I only thought about me who was still unprepared, me who was still far from being confident in this language, me who was still disappointed that I am not getting better. I forgot about me who studied even after work when I was already tired. I forgot about me who studied alone and tried to become better. I forgot about me who didn’t give up even if it was already so difficult. No wonder I could not see the results. When you don’t appreciate the efforts you made for your dream, you won’t be able to see the progress, no matter how small it might be.

The bigger one’s passion is, the bigger the efforts are. The more we sacrifice, the bigger the disappointment is when the results are not what we expected. Shouldn’t we pat our own shoulder more for not giving up, for continuing to work hard even when results are not what we expected? Shouldn’t we appreciate ourselves for being better than we were yesterday even if the step we took forward is hardly visible? Shouldn’t we be more grateful to us who worked so hard for what we love? It takes as much courage to give up as it takes to go on. It is always our choice to do one or the other.

As for me, I may not be the best learner, but I never wanted to be that. All I ever wanted was to never give up on learning Korean, on learning new languages, a hobby of mine, as you already know. I am doing that and that alone is great. I am still learning and studying hard. I have a passion that motivates me to work even more. Every step I take, every new word I learn, every page I fill with my thoughts in poor Korean is still an effort I make toward my goal. Who cares is not perfect? If it was perfect than I would stop learning and that would be more painful than advancing slowly.

It is hard to see that your progress is not matching the efforts you put into something you really like doing. But the satisfaction you feel when you see you finally got it cannot be described into words. I remember how proud I was when I realized I understand more Korean than I thought while watching dramas without English subtitles or even without Korean subtitles at all. I was so proud that I started crying like a baby. I was that happy and satisfied. When something is making you that happy, you know you must never give up on that thing. Continue doing it no matter how slowly you advance. One day you will be surprised by how much your efforts have flourished.

So keep learning, keep doing what makes you happy no matter what others say, no matter how hard it gets. You will get there someday.
Until then, stay positive and healthy and I’ll see you around.

The little things that matter

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Because we live in very difficult times, not losing our motivation and taking care of our mental health have become daily challenges. More than ever before, we are forced to make even bigger efforts in order to stay on track and keep doing what we usually do.

I myself have many days when I feel down and lose my motivation. However, it helps a lot to think that better days are yet to come. We must convince ourselves that everything will get better if we don’t naturally believe so. I like to apply the yin and yang principle especially when I find myself in difficult moments. The bad times are only here to teach us something and to announce that better days are yet to come. There is no absolute good or bad here. In my case, this mentality helped me especially in the moments I wanted to give up. Maybe those good days I was expecting didn’t come when I wanted, but I like to believe they came when I needed. Just because I think this way, it felt easier many times.

Building a stronger and a more positive mentality is the key point when dealing with stressful situations, but it takes time and patience to get there. You can call it a personal training. You train yourself to become stronger and more prepared for when the problems hit you. You learn from others how to train yourself or you learn by yourself, from your own ups and downs. Either way is fine as long as it works for you.

It is strange that most of the times, when we are cornered and we feel everything is lost, we dont see any way of how we could handle a certain difficult situation, it is exactly the time we become the strongest, we focus with all our strength and we find the best solution. It is the preservation instinct within us and the efforts we made until that point in our life that gets the best out of us.

Talking about efforts, I am not saying that we should move the mountains every day. Most of the times, the little things we do every day matter more than moving a mountain once in a while. The power of habit is stronger than you think. Depending on what you want to achieve and on your personality, you can do small things at a time and step by step you will get there.

In my case, staying positive and motivated are extremely important and therefore extremely difficult. These two aspects are not only important for my mental health, but also for my personal development journey. Thus I put a lot of effort into making habits that I can keep and that can help me become more resilient and more focused on what really matters. These are the activities that I enjoy the most and the ones that help me deal with those bad days I was telling you about at the beginning. And they are helpful because I enjoy them. Make sure to find the ones that you enjoy the most too.

Not reading the corona news. Unless I need to be informed about some of the latest regulations, I don’t read the news about the virus anymore. I used to read the corona news very diligently. The result? Of course I couldn’t find the cure, instead I had to deal with anxiety and insomnia. Until I said stop and started focusing more on what I can do rather than stressing over things that I can’t control.

Journaling. This is definitely one activity that I enjoy and that helped me greatly with anxiety and stress. Journaling worked like counselling for me and I always encourage the people I know to try this method in order to organize their thoughts and to relieve stress. I also like to re-read my old journals because this way I can see how much I improved and what else I can improve when analyzing objectively. Also, journaling helps me detach from my problems. I don’t forget about problems, but at least I put them on paper so they won’t make a bigger fuss in my head. When you put your problems on paper, you will have a better view on them like you would if you could see yourself from outside.

Reading books out loud. I love reading books out loud, especially when I am alone because I can get as silly as I want and I can focus better. This activity is quiet healing for me because when I read out loud I put to sleep the noisy thoughts inside my head. It also helps with improving your pronunciation if you are practicing a new language.

Listening to music and singing out loud. Listening to music is extremely healing in my case because I have a special place for music in my heart. Music has been my strongest ally when I was studying and even when I wrote my dissertation. Singing is even stronger because it relieves stress like no other activity. No wonder Koreans love going to karaoke when they want to relieve stress. I couldn’t relate more.

Watching movies and Korean dramas. I am a big fan of Korean movies and dramas and I must say they are like headache pills when I don’t exaggerate :)) I feel refreshed and motivated even after watching 10 or 15 minutes of an episode. This method works without fail even after 10 years.

Clean the house. It might sound strange, but I find cleaning quiet healing. When I clean I feel like I also clean my mind from stressful thoughts. Also, cleaning is that physical activity that can actually stop me from overthinking. At the end, I win. I am refreshed and I live in a cleaner space.

Burning incense sticks. This method is very helpful when I have a bad mood. Nice smells are especially helpful for a better concentration, for relieving stress or when you simply want to change the atmosphere in your house. It is not only relaxing, but your house will also smell amazing.

Yoga. I started doing yoga almost at the same time I started journaling. I felt the need to move a bit while staying all day inside, but I didn’t like to move too much because I am quiet lazy when it comes to sports. Thus yoga was the solution to my problem and it was the best one. Yoga is extremely helpful for people who spend a lot of time standing in front of their monitors and it can also be fun when trying to find new poses.

Write to-do lists. I use this method daily in order to keep myself on track. It also helps me to stay motivated because I can visualize my goals and my results. I also like to set two bigger goals per month in order to better focus on every small step that will lead me to achieve those goals.

Write small motivational messages. I started using this method 2 or 3 months ago and I can say it is quiet efficient. I usually put a note with my motivation for a certain situation or period in time on my monitor so I can see it often.

These are the activities I enjoy doing in order to stay positive, motivated and productive throughout difficult times or when I get too lazy. These activities work like some sort of routine that helps me stay on track, but the good part is that I am also enjoying them. I feel extremely grateful that I have so many things that I like and that I find helpful. They are simple things and you might practice almost all of them in your daily life but maybe you don’t know yet how helpful they can be. Think about it. Think about all the things you like and might also help you stay positive and get over the difficult times in your life. Think about them and maybe even share them with me in the comments.

As always, stay healthy and positive and I’ll see you around.

The importance of setting priorities

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After many years of work and study in a disorganized way, I finally learnt how important and efficient it is to set priorities in order to meet our goals and expectations. The feeling I have after this lesson? I feel I finally own my time.

Setting priorities is not always easy. It comes with a determined mindset and with responsibility. Being responsible for your own time is so important and not easy things to do.

I didn’t understand in the past why other people were doing more things than I did in the same amount amount of time. I wanted to be productive too, but no matter how much I worked, my results were not what I was expecting. I thought that quantity would produce the productivity I so much yearned for. However, it was quality, in our case establishing priorities, what mattered the most, the element that had the power to produce great results.

Seeing that my results weren’t matching my efforts, I started to write to do lists for a better organization. Back then I didn’t know that lists could help one become more organized, but somehow I felt the urge to write down what I wanted to do in a day for example. Step by step I learnt how to write better lists, what to write on those lists and how to deal with those situations were I didn’t finish everything on my list. I learnt that too much can destroy all the progress and that sometimes to do lists can become overwhelming, which can lead to losing one’s motivation.

I experienced almost everything with lists. I guess in my case, it wasn’t only about writing lists. It was all about writing down my goals. I suppose it is also related to my learning style. When I start learning something new, I have to write notes or to draw any scheme as a visual translation of words according to my own logic. Also I find writing extremely helpful whenever I have to deal with making decisions. Priorities are also decisions we make for ourselves.

Setting priorities mustn’t be something that stops you from change. Priorities must be flexible. As we change, our priorities change too. It’s the right thing to do. When I was in high school, my top priority was always related to good grades and awards. As a student I knew grades were important, but knowledge and experiences became my top priorities. Now my priorities are health and interior peace. And yes! I had to write these down.

While writing down your goals and priorities might not suit your style or organization method, there are plenty of other strategies you can use to prioritize what is the most important thing for you. I want to share with you one method that was absolutely mind-blowing for me and it really showed me what I really care about right now. This method is known under the name of Stephen Covey’s four quadrants for time management, but I learnt about it from my best friend. We played it like a little game and it is an efficient method to get to own your time.

All you have to do is to split a small piece of paper into 4 equal quadrants. Then you have to write in every square, in the order of importance, 4 of the things that mean the most to you. For the next step, you will start eliminating one by one the fourth, the third and the second element from your list (I was sad when I was eliminating my other elements because they were important too :)). Now you are left with the first element which is the most important and usually the one you sacrifice the most. Mine was health, the most important thing for me, but also the one I sacrifice the most for things that can be done slowly, for things that can be replaced. It was an extremely valuable lesson for me, one that I feel happy to share with you.

I am curious about other ways of prioritizing goals or time management tips and tricks you might use. So feel free to share with me your methods in the comments.

Stay healthy and positive and I’ll see you around.

Coping with maximalism as a minimalist

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If you read some of my articles, you already now that I have integrated minimalism in my life. Though I am far from being a minimalist, I make efforts every day in terms of frugality, sustainable lifestyle, reducing objects and, most importantly, in terms of paying attention when buying something new. If you read my articles, you know that I also used to be a maximalist, mostly because I thought I needed a lot of stuff to operate properly my everyday chores and routines. Today, the same person talks about how to cope with maximalism as a minimalist.

I will give you a perfect example for this opposition: my family and I. My father is in love with shopping since forever and he is a fan of buying in bulk. That’s not always a bad thing, especially in times like these, however my father loves to buy things, often saying that: ”We might need it some day.” My mother, she is not a fan of shopping so you might think she a frugal person. Not exactly. She also likes to buy things like dishes, bed sheets, pillowcases… you got the idea.

When I moved in another city to continue my studies, I was somehow forced by the circumstances to learn how to pack less and how to live with less. But even if I left home with almost nothing, until the end of the year I would double my possessions and it would be always difficult to move back home with all the luggage and then repeat the process the next year. Every year I would promise to myself that I won’t repeat the same mistake, but guess what? I’ve repeated the process for about 5 years. It was difficult to understand how exactly to keep this promise, I thought it was because I didn’t own my house, but now I know it was only an excuse.

When I decided to move back with my parents, I had already adopted minimalism and I decided to make more efforts to achieve an easier and simpler lifestyle. But I had forgotten that my parents had another lifestyle and it was me the one who changed. At the beginning I was constantly frustrated and I still am sometimes even these days. But then I remember that I have my lifestyle and my parents have theirs. I made my choice for mine and they made their choice for their own lifestyle. Since moving back with my parents I have learnt a lot of tricks that helped me cope with their maximalist lifestyle and I hope it can help you too.

So here you have it:

  1. Expect things to be difficult and take a deep breath.
  2. Don’t try to empty their things without asking if they still need them.
  3. Understand their perception on order and cleaning.
  4. Try to accept their lifestyle as it is.
  5. Make small changes gradually.
  6. Make suggestions and don’t try to force them to reduce their things. Make their brain become accustomed to the idea of reducing possessions.
  7. Make compromises.

I learnt from my own experience that you can’t impose your lifestyle to other people, even if they are your family. Maybe I tried to do it at first, because the pile of things was just too much for the new me to handle, but step by step I learnt to look the other way. There are still days when my brain says ”Look at that pile of things” and I actually see it. But then I start laughing, thinking that I’ve been trough that a thousand times before. While our lives and lifestyles can’t be perfect, transitioning to a new lifestyle or coping with different lifestyles can’t be perfect too. It is only a matter of patience, understanding and acceptance. And time is important too. Give time to them and to yourself as well.

Productivity vs. slow living

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Living a slow paced life is often seen as the opposite of productivity. I think it is because slow is often seen as doing nothing. But this is far from the truth and it took me a while to realize this.

Actually I used to believe the same thing. Rather than a prejudice I think I was afraid of not doing my best, afraid of being unproductive. Also, what brought me closer to my idea of slow paced life is the continuous fatigue that almost ruined my health, not a high level of productivity that you might think I had, while reading this. I realized only later that even if I was exhausted, I wasn’t exactly the most productive person. This is very close related to the principles of prioritization and time-management. Stress management and mental health care are also very important pieces in this puzzle. I used to do things the wrong way, but at least I know it now and I am trying to fix things.

I talked before here about the importance of journaling in my life and how this practice helped me understand and know myself better. I am a to-do-list person since I was young. I loved having long lists about anything and I thought that keeping myself busy would only bring me benefits. Little I knew about the truth. Long lists and the pressure I put on myself only harmed my physical and mental health.

Today I am the same to-do-list person. The difference is that I have changed my mindset and my approach. Today I write better lists, with only the most important things I want to do every day.
• My lists are now shorter, and even when I put more on the list, I prioritize the most important things.
• I became more flexible and I forgive myself when I can’t finish the things on my list.
I allow myself to begin with what I am most comfortable doing first. I don’t try to get the elephant out of the room.
• I adapt my lists based on the needs I have in a certain day.
• I don’t look specifically for productivity but for self-satisfaction.

Today I believe that you can be productive while living at a slower pace. For example, if today I wanted to clean my room and I actually did it, I would be happy that I succeeded, even if on my list there was also a plan to clean the kitchen. This is also productivity in my eyes. But more than productivity, it’s my mind that is at peace because today I did something too. I receive satisfaction from doing my best every day. Also, the idea of productivity is relative and every person sees productivity in his/her own way. Thus, more important than trying to be as productive as other people are is to find what means productivity for you and to find your own way of doing it.

Hard times, our mentors in life

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If you look too deep into life, you will realize that sometimes life can be difficult. I am an overthinker and I analyze even small details. I am not proud of it because most of the times I overthink even everyday situations that makes me more stressed than I should actually be. But you see, looking deeper into life doesn’t always equate to overthinking. Sometimes you get to realize the essence of life and you get to know yourself better.

Everyone’s life got even more difficult because of the current situation and I was also affected. I had to make decisions that should have made my life easier but I don’t know if I succeeded. My social life suffered transformations too and I miss meeting people and traveling a lot. As I looked deeper and deeper I could only hear my sighs, I couldn’t even hear my thoughts as I would usually do. When this happens I panic and the unknown scares me even more. There are a lot of activities and projects I had to reschedule in an unknown and unpredictable future. But then I started having these thoughts: why think so much about the future when you can’t even predict what’s going to happen tomorrow? Why think about the things you have to give up on, the things you can’t do right now when there are a lot of other things you can do Now, even during these hard times.

Hard times are our teachers, our mentors in life. Humans have a powerful and beautiful skill: They can adapt to different and continuously changing situations. In these hard times the most important thing is to not give up. Every day is a new lesson for the future. Hard times make us more resilient and more creative. When things get more difficult for me, I try looking for other ways to do what I want to do, I become more creative, more frugal and I try to get more of the c’est la vie philosophy. When you cannot change the things around you, learn how to appreciate what you already have and don’t lose hope. Better days will come. Actually there is a theory I absolutely love and I apply it in almost every situation of my life. It’s Einstein’s Theory of Relativity. Everything is temporary. There is no absolute hard times, no absolute good times. I believe that during hard times, us humans, we prepare the path for the good times. There are our efforts that flourish into the good times. It’s because we didn’t give up and we did our best that good times come again to us. This is also related to perspective, to how you take this kind of situations. It is important to adapt your perspective so you won’t be too affected by every change or problem that comes your way.

Knowing that nothing lasts forever, we can appreciate good times even more. We wait and hope for better to come when we have a difficult period to deal with. This is called balance. Becoming aware of all these unspoken rules can be of great help during difficult times. It will get better because it is hard now.

Lessons I learnt from minimalism

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I talk a lot about minimalism because it really changed my life perspective. Even if I used to be a maximalist before, I was a very simple person. As I liked simple things, it’s almost like I was waiting to find minimalism and it’s nice to see that there is something that suits me so well. Other than that, minimalism taught me to appreciate more what I have now and even in the difficult moments of my life I believe that a better day will come. So minimalism is also related to optimism and faith, at least to me, and it works best in difficult moments. And now that I think about it better, it’s not wrong. Actually, in his book, Goodbye things, Fumio Sasaki says that one of the reasons many Japanese chose a simpler lifestyle is because of a catastrophe, the Great East Japan Earthquake, that affected so many people and made them change their perspective on life and their possessions.

Thus minimalism taught me as well about simplicity, about appreciating the present, about not caring about things, but caring about ourselves and the people we love. Minimalism is about reducing possessions in order to simplify our lives and have more time for the important things, more time for taking care of ourselves. There are too many things to do around the house anyway, so why make our job more difficult.

Another aspect related to minimalism that I really like is caring for the nature. I learnt about ecology in school and I really enjoyed participating in projects for environment protection. Thus, while practicing minimalism, step by step I started giving up on many chemical products (for example cleaning products, shower gels etc.) and I became more concerned about plastic use. I realized that many changes were not only good for the environment, but also for me, for my health and my finances.

Speaking of finances, minimalism can be used as a way of educating ourselves on how to do shopping. Like many other people, I used to buy a lot of unnecessary things that I thought were pretty or necessary to me. I remember that once I bought online a piece of clothing that promised to make me sweat and lose weight easier. I was foolish to believe all that marketing crap, but I gave it a chance and realized that it wasn’t working the way it was meant to. It was a foolish decision but I learnt that losing weight must be done by making more efforts, by adjusting my lifestyle and by doing the sport that I actually hated. Since then I must’ve bought other unnecessary things but at some point I started to question myself more often: you like it but do you really need it? Can’t you use what you have instead? Where are you going to place it? Are you going to use it for a long time? Is it a good quality product? I would also add the things that I want to buy on my shopping list and let them there for a few days or a week. If I still felt I need them after a few days then I would buy them, but I found myself removing a lot of objects from my list as I didn’t feel the urge of buying them. I would say to myself, I don’t need this, why did I put it on my list? It works well for me because we tend to buy based on the urge we feel at that moment, or because the marketing is so good and subtle in making us believe we need those things.

Actually we don’t need many of them and we can live just fine without all the stuff they sell on the internet or in those nicely organized stores. Buying things comes with a lot of responsibility: we spend money that we can use on something that we really need, we need more space for the things we buy, they might be thrown after a few uses, the waste they produce, we have more things to organize and clean. There are many aspects to take in consideration. I believe that minimalism is some sort of self-education. It’s easy to begin with, but it takes time to adjust your lifestyle to it and a lot of effort to maintain it for a long period of time. But once you get used to it you can’t live without it. This is what minimalism means to me.

And then I found minimalism

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It’s been a few months since I have decided to adapt my lifestyle to minimalism. Of course I cannot consider myself a minimalist, I am still so far away, and I believe that calling myself as such wouldn’t change so much. However, this is by far one of the best changes, one of the best decisions I made to bring myself to the next level.

I have to admit that I found out about minimalism quite recently, but I guess I was so busy with my chaotic life that I didn’t pay to much attention to this beautiful lifestyle. I like to believe that there is a right time for everything in our lives. Thus, it probably wasn’t the right time for me to get into minimalism at the time I found out about it. Even though I like the change I made, I don’t regret not making it earlier. I accept that my past experiences and my lifestyle were the catalyst for me choosing minimalism as a new way of living.

I used to be a maximalist. Being raised by maximalist parents, I loved to have a lot of things that even if I didn’t need immediately, they would be for sure necessary later. It is true, they came handy many times, but they would occupy a place for quiet a while in the attic for example, until their day came to be used. And when you buy/accumulate many things, you will only buy more things to organize what you already have. A vicious circle. Buying it’s like chocolate. It’s sweet, we love it, but it’s dangerous if we eat too much.


This was me. I loved buying and having many things as much as I loved chocolate (btw, now I even reduced to 90% the consume of chocolate). I was a true maximalist. I thought things would bring me satisfaction. I am not going to lie, buying things still gives me joy. I love buying online because it feels like I make myself presents. However, after I became an adult, I realized that things don’t bring happiness and even if they do, that happiness doesn’t even last 10 minutes. There are so many things I regret buying because some of them were not even used once. Buying things should only serve our needs. I realized that people buy often things just for the sake of buying something new, for trying to change their mood or their life. I used to do the same thing, but the truth is change doesn’t work that way. A change, or better said the will of a change that can help you grow will come most of the times from within yourself. Changing your mindset, your habits, your lifestyle, that is the change we must pursue.

I discovered minimalism while searching for answers, for solutions to live a better and a healthier lifestyle. I knew I wanted to lose weight but my mindset needed training first. Thus I began researching for methods to change my lifestyle, methods that would last and that would be easy to maintain for a long period of time. This is how I found out about famous minimalists like Marie Kondo and Fumio Sasaki. Because books and videos have a great impact on me, I started watching videos about minimalism and I even read books, the one with the biggest impact being Fumio Sasaki’s Goodbye, Things. I was fascinated about the things that I learned and soon I became addicted and started to experience this new lifestyle step by step. And this is the best way to approach something new in order to keep doing it. Changes are difficult anyway, so take it easy, you will get better step by step.

Minimalism changed me for the better. It changed the way I think, the way I act, the way I live. There are still a lot of things to discover and I know I am not very good at it, but if we think of minimalism as a way of living then it mustn’t be perfect. By giving your best and trying to live simply, respecting others and the nature, you are doing more than fine. Every time I talk about minimalism, I get so excited and I have so much to tell, but I end up saying so little. But I believe this is the pure essence of minimalism: saying more with less, doing more with less. When less is more, we become free to do more of the things we love. This is the life I want to live.

Why I chose to slow down

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Since I was a child I was in a continuous rush and I’ve always tried to do more than I could handle. I remember that when I was in school I used to do a lot of extra homework for most of the disciplines. It was already a lot for a children and now that I think about it, I don’t really think it helped me that much later on, other than building consistency, but society taught us that we had to do more and more in order to succeed. Thus I have always participated in a lot of school contests and extracurricular activities and extra homework was some kind of hobby for me. And no, I am not trying to show off (if I could go back to those years… yeah, I would probably do the same, silly me), but honestly I was surprised by how many notebooks written by hand I had in school when I reorganized all my books and notebooks.

I continued this practice even during faculty (told you, silly me). I studied and worked a lot, I didn’t respect myself and my sleep hours, I ate in a hurry and often unhealthy food. The truth is nobody asked me to do so. Nobody asked me to work until 2 or 3 in the morning. I was the one pushing myself. And then I started to feel weaker and tired day by day. I also had some health issues. All because I didn’t take care of myself, because I pushed myself when it wasn’t the case. My body was yelling but I couldn’t free myself from the prison I had build. Until very recently, more exactly this year. I decided to change my habits and to try healthier ones. This is what I usually do at the beginning of the year. I always had New Year resolutions. But they usually sounded like this : This year I have to take a lot of 10 in school! (the equivalent of A).

For the 2020 resolutions, I wanted for the first time to do something that would mean a real improvement to me. So I set 2 big objectives: to lose weight and to start keeping a journal. And I did both, which gives me so much satisfaction and motivation to continue making more healthy and practical decisions.

Journaling and later my encounter with minimalism helped me a lot to calm my mind and to realize that I was missing a lot of things because I was always in a hurry. Through journaling I became more organized and it also became a motivation for starting this blog. Minimalism taught me to slow down and helped me become more responsible and more mindful about my everyday life. Slowing down is a continuous practice, not a destination. I will never be able to master it, but I will certainly enjoy the process.