Coping with bad weather/bad moods

The weather was so messed up in the last 3 weeks. It rained like crazy, day and night, for about 3 weeks until the soil couldn’t absorb the water anymore and even if the rain stopped in the last 3 days, there is still a lot of water in our yard.

Ironically enough, before the “rainy season” started, I watched the anime Weathering with you. This anime shows us a Japan where it rains everyday and is threatened to be englobed by water. When I was watching this anime I was thinking how difficult it would be to live in a world where it rains daily and the sun can’t be seen anymore. Thanks God my imagination doesn’t transform into reality.

However soon it was the time rain play its role. After only one week I was tired of it but I still took it as it was. Unlike the girl from Weathering with you, I couldn’t pray and stop the rain. So I just waited, the only thing we humans can do. Then it rained more and more. Some nights I would wake up hearing the rain and would feel disappointed that it wouldn’t stop. I hoped that when I woke up in the morning, the rain would stop. But it didn’t. It rained and rained for a few more days. I was tired and depressed. I love rain, but that wasn’t rain. It was something else. I have no name for it. Unfortunately, in this region we have many periods like this. Thus, whenever it rains for a long time I get a little depressed. However, I can’t stay depressed all day just because it rains. Thus I started to think about what I could do to improve my moods when I am down, no matter the reason. This is what I do:

Analyze the cause of my mood. Whenever I see that I am down, I try to think of the cause that’s influencing my mood. If I know the cause, I can find the proper solution. Let’s say it’s weather the reason I feel down. What I do is try to make inside the most comfortable environment for me to get better. Cleaning, changing the bedsheets, using perfume for my room, lights and listening to asmr of a day I miss are some of the things that help me cope with a bad mood.

Accept my mood. Hey, it’s not like life is only made of good days. Sometimes we also have a bad day, or more. So what? It’s not like life is made only of bad days either. Bad days are there so you can enjoy your good days. Bad days can teach us valuable lessons. All we have to do is to accept them as part of our life.

Meditation and journaling. These two are the most important practices for self-development and healing that I like using these days. While journaling is not something that I do daily, meditation became part of my daily life. Trough meditation I can easily calm my mind full of thoughts, because I mostly concentrate on breathing.

Listening to music. Music has healing effects for me. Whenever I listen to music it’s like I am opening a door to another world. It’s healing and relaxing.

Planning. Yes, the best time to plan is when you have not much to do. During those rainy or cold days I planned the most: how my vegetable garden should look like, what vegetable seeds I should buy, how I should design my relaxation space in the garden outside and I even found the time to learn more about gardening, a hobby I enjoy very much.

Relax. Finding the time to relax is not something I am very good at. However, I am always trying to get better at taking breaks, better at slowing down, better at taking care of myself. What better time to do this than when you feel shitty. Only by applying a face mask or wearing some perfume you can change your mood by a lot. We need to feel pretty outside as well in order to feel pretty and healthy inside. Use your time wisely.


I admit, it’s not easy to get to feel better when you have a bad day. One day might start as a bad day, but finish as a good one. In the end, it is our efforts that make a difference. We can accept that we have a bad day and that tomorrow could be a better one, or we can try to make a bad day ends well. That’s a possibility too. You don’t have to do it well from your first try. You shouldn’t force yourself, instead you should constantly try to get better at healing yourself and loving your bad moods as well. That’s how you can enjoy life with everything it has.


Thanks for being with me today as well.
Stay positive and healthy and I’ll see you around.

The little things that matter

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Because we live in very difficult times, not losing our motivation and taking care of our mental health have become daily challenges. More than ever before, we are forced to make even bigger efforts in order to stay on track and keep doing what we usually do.

I myself have many days when I feel down and lose my motivation. However, it helps a lot to think that better days are yet to come. We must convince ourselves that everything will get better if we don’t naturally believe so. I like to apply the yin and yang principle especially when I find myself in difficult moments. The bad times are only here to teach us something and to announce that better days are yet to come. There is no absolute good or bad here. In my case, this mentality helped me especially in the moments I wanted to give up. Maybe those good days I was expecting didn’t come when I wanted, but I like to believe they came when I needed. Just because I think this way, it felt easier many times.

Building a stronger and a more positive mentality is the key point when dealing with stressful situations, but it takes time and patience to get there. You can call it a personal training. You train yourself to become stronger and more prepared for when the problems hit you. You learn from others how to train yourself or you learn by yourself, from your own ups and downs. Either way is fine as long as it works for you.

It is strange that most of the times, when we are cornered and we feel everything is lost, we dont see any way of how we could handle a certain difficult situation, it is exactly the time we become the strongest, we focus with all our strength and we find the best solution. It is the preservation instinct within us and the efforts we made until that point in our life that gets the best out of us.

Talking about efforts, I am not saying that we should move the mountains every day. Most of the times, the little things we do every day matter more than moving a mountain once in a while. The power of habit is stronger than you think. Depending on what you want to achieve and on your personality, you can do small things at a time and step by step you will get there.

In my case, staying positive and motivated are extremely important and therefore extremely difficult. These two aspects are not only important for my mental health, but also for my personal development journey. Thus I put a lot of effort into making habits that I can keep and that can help me become more resilient and more focused on what really matters. These are the activities that I enjoy the most and the ones that help me deal with those bad days I was telling you about at the beginning. And they are helpful because I enjoy them. Make sure to find the ones that you enjoy the most too.

Not reading the corona news. Unless I need to be informed about some of the latest regulations, I don’t read the news about the virus anymore. I used to read the corona news very diligently. The result? Of course I couldn’t find the cure, instead I had to deal with anxiety and insomnia. Until I said stop and started focusing more on what I can do rather than stressing over things that I can’t control.

Journaling. This is definitely one activity that I enjoy and that helped me greatly with anxiety and stress. Journaling worked like counselling for me and I always encourage the people I know to try this method in order to organize their thoughts and to relieve stress. I also like to re-read my old journals because this way I can see how much I improved and what else I can improve when analyzing objectively. Also, journaling helps me detach from my problems. I don’t forget about problems, but at least I put them on paper so they won’t make a bigger fuss in my head. When you put your problems on paper, you will have a better view on them like you would if you could see yourself from outside.

Reading books out loud. I love reading books out loud, especially when I am alone because I can get as silly as I want and I can focus better. This activity is quiet healing for me because when I read out loud I put to sleep the noisy thoughts inside my head. It also helps with improving your pronunciation if you are practicing a new language.

Listening to music and singing out loud. Listening to music is extremely healing in my case because I have a special place for music in my heart. Music has been my strongest ally when I was studying and even when I wrote my dissertation. Singing is even stronger because it relieves stress like no other activity. No wonder Koreans love going to karaoke when they want to relieve stress. I couldn’t relate more.

Watching movies and Korean dramas. I am a big fan of Korean movies and dramas and I must say they are like headache pills when I don’t exaggerate :)) I feel refreshed and motivated even after watching 10 or 15 minutes of an episode. This method works without fail even after 10 years.

Clean the house. It might sound strange, but I find cleaning quiet healing. When I clean I feel like I also clean my mind from stressful thoughts. Also, cleaning is that physical activity that can actually stop me from overthinking. At the end, I win. I am refreshed and I live in a cleaner space.

Burning incense sticks. This method is very helpful when I have a bad mood. Nice smells are especially helpful for a better concentration, for relieving stress or when you simply want to change the atmosphere in your house. It is not only relaxing, but your house will also smell amazing.

Yoga. I started doing yoga almost at the same time I started journaling. I felt the need to move a bit while staying all day inside, but I didn’t like to move too much because I am quiet lazy when it comes to sports. Thus yoga was the solution to my problem and it was the best one. Yoga is extremely helpful for people who spend a lot of time standing in front of their monitors and it can also be fun when trying to find new poses.

Write to-do lists. I use this method daily in order to keep myself on track. It also helps me to stay motivated because I can visualize my goals and my results. I also like to set two bigger goals per month in order to better focus on every small step that will lead me to achieve those goals.

Write small motivational messages. I started using this method 2 or 3 months ago and I can say it is quiet efficient. I usually put a note with my motivation for a certain situation or period in time on my monitor so I can see it often.

These are the activities I enjoy doing in order to stay positive, motivated and productive throughout difficult times or when I get too lazy. These activities work like some sort of routine that helps me stay on track, but the good part is that I am also enjoying them. I feel extremely grateful that I have so many things that I like and that I find helpful. They are simple things and you might practice almost all of them in your daily life but maybe you don’t know yet how helpful they can be. Think about it. Think about all the things you like and might also help you stay positive and get over the difficult times in your life. Think about them and maybe even share them with me in the comments.

As always, stay healthy and positive and I’ll see you around.

My rules to keep work-life balance while working from home

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Spending most of my time at home was never too much of a problem for me. In fact I enjoyed spending time alone at home and I still am the same introvert who prefers cozy and quiet atmospheres while enjoying my favorite activities.

When I started working from home I wasn’t affected as people thought I would be. Even if I sometimes miss interactions and working with people, I still believe that work from home is exactly my style. I like working from home because I can still make my own rules. I can wear whatever clothes I want or I can work in my pyjamas if I feel like it. I can sleep a little bit more and still keep a routine. I can work and still look out the window to check the beautiful sky or to see if the mountain is in holyday (this is how my sister and I joke about it when there is too much fog and we can’t see the mountain from our bedroom’s window). During breaks I can eat whatever I find in the fridge or the food my sister cooks for me. I love everything about these small habits that make work more bearable.

I have to admit though that it wasn’t like this from the beginning. It took me a while until I discovered what works for me and how I can enjoy working from home. Also, I still have moments when I get extremely bored, not because I don’t have anything to do, but because I work alone in a room for about 8 hours. Another problem I have to face sometimes when working from home is work-related stress and the fact that it is more difficult to disconnect because I live with my work in the same house. This is why it is so important to find little strategies to help us cope with working from home and even like it. So here are my tips to keep the work-life balance when working from home and why not, enjoy it:

1. Keep a routine. Since I have started working from home I have struggled a lot with finding balance between work and personal life. Now I have an experience of two years in work from home and I can say that starting a routine is a life saver. By routine I mean mainly waking up at the same hour, which means that going to bed at almost the same hour is an imperative. I wake up at 7am and I usually start working at 7:40. Until then I wash myself, I change my clothes, I apply face cream etc. And this is what I do every morning. I made a habit of not snoozing my alarm and I get up as soon as I wake up. Also, I try to maintain the same routine in the weekends as well in order to make of this routine a lifestyle that can make my life easier while working from home. However, I have one exception for the weekends: I allow myself to sleep in.

2. Take regular breaks. I can’t stress enough the importance of taking breaks. It’s good for our eyes, for our brain, for our spine and for our overall mood. When I am in my break time, I try not to use my phone too much in order to relax my eyes. Instead of using my phone I like to talk with my sister and to have a good laugh if possible.

3. Don’t skip breakfast and lunch. This aspect is extremely important to me. I can’t even imagine working without eating my breakfast and lunch. This is how I make sure I am productive while taking care of my health. Also I tend to become grumpy when I’m hungry and I am sure I don’t want to make a scene at work because I skipped a meal :))

4. Tidy work space. I like to keep my desk clutter free and I try to tidy it every day, after I finish work. I also try to organize my desk as simply as possible in order to avoid distractions.

5. Disconnect completely. This is my favorite. When I turn off my computer I try to disconnect completely from work until the next day. Thus when my program ends, I try not to think about work and not to talk about it even if it’s just complaining about how hard my day was in order to focus on myself and my personal activities. I try to avoid as much as possible thoughts like: tomorrow I have to work again and to focus on me and on what I am doing at that specific moment.

These are the most important rules I have in order to keep myself organized, productive and maintain a good work life balance. They come so naturally for me that I don’t even struggle. They are that helpful to me. I know it can be difficult to work from home especially when you don’t have a choice but it’s in most of the cases imposed. Just think that you can work, keep yourself healthy and you can even wear those lovely pyjamas you feel so comfy in while working. Stay positive. Stay healthy and I’ll see you around.