This is an era where we mostly talk about productivity, getting the best results and working hard. And we love reading and talking about these subjects. Because this is what everyone else does. We have to become productive, we have to be promoted, we have to work the hell out of us to be observed, to be appreciated. Well, this is how things work. And don’t get me wrong. There’s no problem with working hard, with trying to be as productive as possible, with getting the best results out of your work. This is in fact the way we can measure progress. It’s all fine. However, working the hell out of you while forgetting how to take care of yourself… are you sure about that? Well, I’m not.
I am the type of person who doesn’t like to do something because she has to. Thus I actually get quite unproductive when I do something because I HAVE to. That could be because when I have to do something, I have to force myself to find external motivation to make it work. When I do something because I want it, because I like it, the motivation is internal and it doesn’t feel like work. So yeah, you could say I don’t like work :)) and boy, I get stuck at work so often.
I often feel like we work almost all our life and we have less time to enjoy it. Work is what we sometimes talk about after work when we meet with friends over drinks to forget about work actually. How ironic, right? Work is what we do almost all our life. I myself learned so hard until now just to get a good job. While I am proud I did it, it didn’t make me as happy as I thought I would be. What makes me happy is actually the time I disconnect and forget about work. It’s not that I hate my job or working in particular, I just love more the time I can do the things that I like. Well, I guess this is valid for almost everybody.
In my case, as it wasn’t already enough to deal with a full-time job during the week, I worked also part-time, if I can call it like that, as a tutor during the weekend. I also had a small part-time for 2 years during the week as a teacher, which I think exhausted me. Being a teacher is great and I also found friends while teaching. I did it because I loved it and I wanted to have more experience, but I neglected myself in the process because I didn’t really have the time for it. I guess I overworked myself. The result was a me tired all the time, always busy and stressed. The worst thing was that I was getting tired by the things I enjoyed. This is something I try to be careful of. Therefore I decided to stop getting involved in so many projects and start making time to take care of myself. This is how I thought of establishing the one free day a week.
You might think that one free day per week is not much, but trust me, it works wonders. I usually take that day on Sunday. Sunday is my day and I do whatever I want with that time. I like to do activities for my mental and physical health like meditation, journaling or walking. I also like to relax while listening to music or watching my favorite Korean series. I put a lot of effort in preparing breakfast and coffee for me an my family as my effort to give a good vibe to others and to myself. But what I love the most is the care I give to my skin and to my mind. Sunday is the day I become the VVIP in my life. I am extremely lucky to have a talented sister who does my hair, who gives the best relaxing massage, who does my manicure and my pedicure. On Sundays I become prettier and calmer. This free day is the treat I give to myself after a hard week, and it also helps me start my week with less stress and less worries.
It’s important to work and to improve ourselves, but I think it’s even more important to know when to stop so we can take care of ourselves. Being an active part of this rat race is not something we can be proud of. However, getting to learn how to escape from the rat race is way cooler and you can show off with your skills of nurturing yourself.
What about you? Do you have a day only for yourself? Or maybe you have other methods to relax that you can share with me? I’m curious to learn other ways of slowing down and taking care of ourselves. Let’s talk in the comments.
As always stay healthy and positive and I’ll see you around.